After posting some friendly but firm advice about how to deal with a breakup online, one reader posed two tricky questions:
- "What do you do about all those people you were only friends with because you were dating your ex? I mean, if it's likely you'll never see them again, should you unfriend them?"
- "For that matter, is it completely crass if I ask my friends (who were only friends with him because I was dating him) to unfriend him?"
Check out my responses and share your best advice after the break.
Ugh, why do breakups have to be so hard? Facebook is especially tricky because this depends on your level of closeness with your ex, the frequency at which you use the social networking service, and how close you consider your circle of Facebook friends. That said, it's perfectly reasonable to unfriend anyone associated with your ex, especially if you're worried about him (or her) popping up in status updates and photographs. And I think any reasonable person will understand why you're ending the Facebook friendship; they've probably been in a similar situation themselves.
As for asking your friends to unfriend your ex — I say go for it, but be prepared for one of them to say no. Since different people place different weight on Facebook friendships, it's possible that some friends don't plan to contact him in the first place and may not want to unfriend. It's completely within your bounds to request the change but not out of theirs to decline.
What do you think? Do you agree with me? Disagree? Have more advice to add? Share your thoughts below!