No. I trust my man

I don't check his messages, but I will jokingly grab his phone when his friends who are girls text him. I just like to raz him on it. I have only done that a couple of times.

This like this are an arguable gray area when it comes to our own children, as they're often naive and we want to protect them. There's a certain balance between observing and spying that must be established.

When it comes to a significant other, though, this is completely indefensible. If your relationship is in a state where you feel the need to do this, it's time to sit down and have a talk.

If his phone is near me, I'll pick it up and tell him who's texting. If it's a name I don't know I'll ask who it is. But I trust him and he trusts me so no reason to go snooping through his phone.

No, I don't want to do that. However, I did have access to his emails. I also would'nt want anyone to listen to my messages.

well yea I have snooped but i had reason to. he wasn't exactly honest during our relationship.

No way, that seems soooo wrong!

I have in the past, but never in my current relationship.

actually this is how i found out my husband was cheating on me. i felt something was off and everytime I came into the room he would minimize the IM box. I asked who he was talking to he'd say oh a person. So one day when he wasn't home I logged into his computer and found emails to a few women. one in particular is the one he actually cheated on me with...and that is a whole other sordid tale. But needless to say we are divorced now. I haven't done this with my current husband...he communicates far too much to me as it is to be able to have secret flings on the side.

This is such a double-edged sword. On one hand, everyone's curious and wants to see what's going on in their man's life. On the other, you have to act as if every text message you see doesn't bother you. Unless you want to be seen as the b*tchy clingy girlfriend. And, uh, I definitely don't.

it's a shady thing to do and no one should want to but on the other hand, it's a good way to really figure out the kind of person you're with. you can tell the way someone, especially a significant other, feels about you by the way they let you handle their phone. every guy i'd ever been with that would lock up their phone when i was around was obviously cheating on me. there's no one who is protective of their phone if there's nothing to hide.

I'm in the "if you feel the need to do this, something's wrong (not necessarily what you think is, but something)" camp. With my ex, I would have been tempted; he wasn't cheating on me, but that relationship was already doomed. In my current relationship (married), I have actually had to go out of my way not to read messages that weren't for me.

In response to the comment that mentions children, even then I'm creeped out by some of the stuff for "keeping track" of your children; I'm very thankful my parents had an attitude of needing probable cause before doing more than just talking to us (and a little with other adults who knew us and saw us from time to time), and I plan to do the same with mine (husband feels much the same way).

I definitely wouldn't do it, as I wouldn't like it being done to me. I mean, I'm curious of nature, but it would probably consist more in actually asking about it, rather than sneaking around.

I've never done it, but I've never felt that I needed to. I would only do it if I was in a serious relationship and I felt that there was something going on behind my back that I needed to know about. Aside from that, I really hate the thought of snooping on somebody who you're supposed to trust.

yes.
and there is no problem. in fact, we check each others email often like at home if he's drawing i will check it for him or if i am cooking he will check mine. also, all of our ebay stuff goes to his email so i check his when we are bidding on an item.
and i read his texts because half o them are to me anyway - his sister texts me on his phone because i am on a different network and she doesnt get free texts to me.
we have nothing to hide from each other : we literally see almost every email one another gets.
trust is great

My boyfriend left his myspace page open on my computer once. i must say i was curious and went through it. i was happy to see a picture of us both as his main photo and many others of just me. i have snooped at other times and nothing has changed. his phone i dont mess with. besides, its locked. i have had numerous opportunities to check his emails but who wants to see something they really dont.I trust him.

Well, I've played with his iPod touch which means yes, I see his emails, but it's with permission! xD

I chose other because I've done it and I would do it again. This is how I found out that my exhusband wanted a divorce. I wouldn't want to have found out any other way.

Sure, but neither of us care. If my phone gets a text and he's closer I'll have him read it first, and vice versa if it's his phone. Plus, when we travel and only bring one computer, or if he's lazy in bed in the morning, he'll ask me to check his e-mail for him. Since I can access his information if I wanted to (having his email password, etc) I don't feel the need to snoop since I presume if he WERE cheating or something he would change his password. I'd be a lot more inclined to try to snoop around if I wasn't able to access his info -- I feel like neither of us should have anything to hide.

yeah ive done it.. i trust him but a few of his friends dont exactly care for me, and i don't trust him to tell me if theyre talking sh*t about me
and he's about to deploy, so i'll have his sidekick3 with me all the time, so it will be basically my job to see his texts and emails

but as far as that SIM card spy thingy.. i think its wrong. if its parents spying on their kids, thats touchy, cuz its the parents paying for it, so theres no real expectation of privacy.. if the police start using it, thats a whole new thing...
but hey, i have verizon.. we dont have SIM cards

I completely trust my guy, so I would never spy on him. Besides, he shows me his phone and e-mail all the time anyway.

I have enormous issues with privacy so would never do that without being asked - which happens alot. But I wouldn't do that on my own,no.

No (but then again my "boyfriend" is my husband and he doesn't even have a cell phone). But I could see concerned parents using this feature. Then again, maybe teens don't need cell phones glued to them 24/7.

Oh, I should add (to my earlier comment) that IF a family was to have this, it should be something that everyone knows about. For instance, Mom says, I will check your SIM card at my leisure and if you don't like it then (options here - like pay for your own phone, etc).

I was wondering though... what if someone who steals other people's cell phones had this device. They could get quite a bit of info on someone. That's a bit scary.

The SIM card spy thing is a little ... make that A LOT much. I am a super duper nosy person and I just like to feel like a spy on a TV show or something, so I have looked in my fiance's phone, but I haven't ever found anything and I don't do it because I don't trust him it's more like some sort of game to me. I know this probably means I have deep seeded psychological issues but what can I say it's just me. I should also note that my fiance is just as nosey but not a sneeky. It's not a skill he's picked up.

I think this is a huge invasion of privacy

I am a very private person, and if I found out my other half snooped through my stuff he'd be gone.. I would never be able to trust him again...

If you suspect something talk to him about it..don't be a douchebag and snoop through his crap..

no way! I trust my boyfriend. Besides, I'd be mad if he spied on me.

Yes, that is how I found out my husband was cheating. He kept leaving his Cell phone on silent so checked it out and then I figured out his email password and found more evidence. If I hadn't found the texts on his phone I never would have known. We are now divorced.

I have. And with good reason, too. I would never violate the privacy of anyone who didn't clearly deserve it.

I will read him his text if he is in the shower or something and someone Txt msgs him. But...I wouldnt want him seeing EVERY single text from my phone and I wouldnt want to see every one from his. Snooping is bad because you uncover things that could hurt you and might have just been said out of anger.

my boyfriend and I steal each others phones all the time and go through the txts. usually they are from each other.

He tells me to look at his texts when he gets funny jokes from friends.

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I've checked my boy's texts a couple times, just like he'll read mine, but it's not because I don't trust him. XD When I'm bored and playing with his phone, usually I read his messages or play around with his pictures and stuff.

No, I never have. My ex kept his phone pretty much on or near him at all times, and I'm pretty sure I only held it longer than a second and a half once, and that was so he could show me a youtube video, and then snatch it back out of my hand as soon as it was finished. He didn't trust me for 2 seconds with that thing, and it always made me wonder why. If there wasn't anything to hide, there wouldn't have been any reason to hide anything. He said it was because I could potentially see something that pissed me off.... and my thought was, "Well, then maybe it shouldn't have been happening."

But then, he said the same thing about his Facebook account, in regards to why he wouldn't add me. Yeah, because people who've been dating for 3 years would be INSANE to add each other...

Ah, it's nice to remember the reasons why ex's are ex's, from time to time. It's too easy to forget.